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Let's Give Them Something to Talk About

A 2018 study showed that the average American family spends only 37 minutes of 'quality time' a day together (source).  If that number has changed in three years, I am guessing it has gone down and not up.  This first makes me want to re-evaluate my priorities and second, make sure those precious minutes are intentionally spent. 

Below are age-appropriate lists of open-ended questions to get your kid talking.  I try to make it a priority to be present, and it really takes some practice! Put down the phone, turn off the TV and really listen. Some of the best times I have found to talk with my kids are at dinner, playing outside, in the car, or before bed.


  1. Would you rather be 5 years younger or 5 years older?
  2. Who do you think looks up to you and why?
  3. What is the most difficult thing in your life right now?
  4. What is the most embarrassing thing that ever happened to you?
  5. What helps you feel better when you’re upset or stressed out?
  6. If you could change one thing about yourself, what would it be and why?
  7. What is one thing you own that you cherish the most? Why?
  8. What is something that you really like about yourself?
  9. If someone gave you $1000 dollars right now what would you do with it?
  10. What is the best thing about our family?
Source: Do It With Flair

Elementary Aged

  1. What goes into your mind before you fall asleep? What is the last thing you think about?
  2. If you were asked to describe yourself using three words–which words would you use?
  3. If you had a superpower, what would it be and what would be your superhero name?
  4. If all your toys could talk, what do you think they would say?
  5. If you could change all our names, what would you call us?
  6. What do you like most about our family?
  7. What do you like most about yourself?
  8. If you could only eat one food for the rest of your life, which food would you pick?
  9. What is one thing you would like to know about grown-ups?
  10. What is one thing that Mom or Dad taught you that you will never forget?

Pre-school Aged

  1. What are you really good at?
  2. What is something you really don’t like to do?
  3. What are some ways you and Mommy/Daddy are the same?
  4. What’s the silliest sound you can make?
  5. Would you like to live in [favorite book]? Why?
  6. If your [toy/pet] could talk, what do you think he/she would say?
  7. What was your favorite part of today?
  8. What are you most looking forward to doing tomorrow?
  9. What is your favorite thing we do as a family?
  10. What do you want to be when you grow up?
Source: Happiest Baby
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